Thank you to Swinging Gemma for this week’s TMI Tuesday questions.
1. Do you think that acting out a fantasy can sometimes cause damage to a relationship?
It can be damaging if it is not properly discussed and communicated ahead of time. There could be unknown triggers for some partners, depending on the fantasy. It’s always important to talk everything out first. Some fantasies are not for everyone, and nobody should do something they really don’t want to do.
2. Some couples role play their fantasies rather than introducing another person into the relationship to live out their fantasies. Do you think that this is an acceptable substitute?
If both partners are fulfilled by this, then it is absolutely an acceptable substitute. When we adopt other roles and/or personae, sometimes it can be just as hot as being with a completely different person. An easy go-to for this would be to role play as if you and your partners are strangers in a bar and then you pick each other up. That one has worked well for me because it allows you to behave in a way that you might not necessarily if you were actually being picked up by someone. It can be a gateway to being really brazen and slutty!
3. Is there a particular movie or TV series or character from a movie or TV series that you fantasise about?
Honestly, while there are many actors and actresses that I think are mind-blowingly hot, and I’ve seen lots of super-sexy scenes, I don’t tend to think about them while I’m masturbating or having sex. As such, unfortunately none even come to mind.
4. Apart from the obvious things like child abuse, are there some things that are ‘off limits’ for a fantasy e.g. incest fantasies, age play, rape fantasies. Why/ why not?
There used to be things that were off-limits to me. However, after having role-played (online and over the phone) some of them, I’ve learned that there is a difference between fantasizing and acting on it. I’ve talked about and fantasized about many things that I would never actually participate in.
5. What is the most taboo thing you have ever fantasized about doing?
There is someone I’ve known and role played with online (and occasionally on the phone) for a long time. He has taught me that many things I never would have considered before can be really hot. Our general interaction and role play scenario incorporates everything listed in the previous question: incest, age play, and rape, in addition to bestiality and scat. It’s downright dirrrrrty, but also some of the hottest stuff I’ve ever thought about. Nothing I would ever truly do in a zillion years.
6. Tell us about a fantasy that you have that you don’t ever see yourself actually acting out. Why do you think you will never act it out?
A gang bang full of random guys from a bar. I’d be passed around, used and abused and tossed aside. It would never happen because there are way too many things that can go wrong, not to mention the high risk factor for disease and/or serious injury.
7. Have you ever pretended the person you were having sex with was someone else without telling them?
Yes, And I believe that anybody who answers otherwise isn’t being honest with him/herself.
8. Have you ever tried to make a fantasy a reality only to have it fail miserably? What happened?
The first example that comes to mind is the very first time I ever tried. I was very young and naive, barely 18, and I was dating a 31 year old biker. We fucked all the time in the beginning. And one night I thought I would surprise him with a big T sundae. He and I had just taken a shower together. Knowing what I had in mind, I got out before he did and quickly ran into the kitchen to get some whipped cream and chocolate syrup. I went back to the bedroom and lay down on the bed. I covered my pussy and both boobs with whipped cream and drizzled them with chocolate syrup. Then I waited with a big grin on my face. On any other given day, he would be right behind me in about 5 minutes. However, on this particular night, he took his sweet-ass time about it. I think it was fully 15-20 minutes before he joined me in the bedroom. By that time, all of the whipped cream had melted and running down my sides. I couldn’t move my arms from my sides because I didn’t want to get it all over the bed. He busted out laughing as soon as he saw me and said, “awwww honey…” I just wanted to cry! That was the last time I ever tried anything like that again!
Bonus: Tell us about your most cherished fantasy. Did you ever live it out? Please give us all the juicy details because that is the kind of people we are.
Currently, there aren’t a lot of juicy details for my biggest fantasy. To date, out of all the things I have done, I have never had a threesome with two men. I have never been double penetrated by two live cocks. Two dildos, yes. Not even a cock and a dildo.
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