Can we befriends?
1. Have you ever had a friendship with a someone where you secretly (or not so secretly) desired them?
I will say that I have the most fuckable friends on the planet. I want to do all of them. Seriously. Some more than others. One in particular has earned the nickname “my 7-year conquest.”
2. Are you prone to jealousy, suspicion or insecurity when your partner spends time with an attractive close friend without you? Why?
I like to think that I am not prone to this at all, but sometimes I do get a bit jealous. Mostly if he gets to spend time with someone that I do not. I feel like there are certain people with whom I just do not get to spend enough time, but it’s because we all lead such busy lives. I am not jealous of his time, however, because I am more than willing to share him.
3. Has a previously platonic friendship ever bloomed into a sexual relationship?
I’ve had several of these, actually. One of my oldest friends, with whom I have been friends since we were 12, and I have been occasional lovers for the past several years.
4. Have you ever remained close friends with an ex-lover?
I don’t know that I am close friends with any of them that were solely lovers, but I am still friends with a few. Some are friends that became lovers but we ceased to be lovers and returned to being just friends.
Bonus: Have you ever developed feelings for a “friend with benefits”? How did it develop, unfold, resolve?
I have feelings for all of my friends, to one degree or another. I have probably fallen in love with each of my friends in turn. I have an enormous capacity for love, so my feelings don’t diminish when they are not returned with the same intensity that I feel. On a couple of occasions I have had to take a step back and put a bit of distance in the relationship just for the sake of self-preservation, but with time the distance could be erased again.