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TMI Tuesday – The LONG and the SHORT of it

Thank you Erotic Adventures in Brisneyland for the following TMI Tuesday questions.
The LONG and the SHORT of it

1. What is the longest relationship you have been in?
My current relationship with Roland. Saturday, October 27 was our 6th anniversary. 🙂

2. What is the shortest relationship you have been in?
I had several flings in my 20s that lasted maybe a couple of weeks.

3. How often do you have sex? How often do you want sex?
We usually have sex at least 2 or three times a week. In a perfect world, I would be having sex at least once a day. I want sex almost constantly.

4. How long does sex usually last?
I think on average we go about 20-30 minutes, depending on how long we have and what time of day it is.

5. Have you ever had an experience where someone couldn’t perform, finished too quickly or couldn’t keep up with you? Tell us about it?
I would venture to say that anyone who has never had at least one of those 3 things occur is lying. We’ve all been through something like that. Probably more than once. It’s completely normal. There are so many factors to consider. One or both partners can be tired or drunk or nervous or overexcited or understimulated, which are all things that influence performance.

6. If you could only have one “type” of sexual encounter for the rest of your life, would you prefer
a) short and sweet
b) wham bam thank you ma’am
c) here for the long haul
d) slow and tender

Honestly, as much as I love rough sex, I would take option D over anything else. I like it when we take our time to enjoy and explore each other.

Bonus: Would you consider ending an otherwise healthy and loving relationship if the sex wasn’t what you wanted?
No. Sex is the easiest issue to resolve in a relationship if both parties are willing to try, and if it is otherwise loving and healthy, then I don’t see any reason why they wouldn’t be. There are just so many other options besides ending the relationship.

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Happy TMI Tuesday!

Asking for sex

Today’s post was inspired when I followed the divine Lady Grinning Soul to this post about how to ask for sex.

This topic, of how to ask for sex, has recently come up with me and my man. We’ve been together just over 5 years now, and the topic of sex has always been… a precarious one? My sex drive has always been way higher than his, but in the beginning that was largely due to him being terribly reserved and repressed. He has finally relaxed and let go A LOT, but until about a month ago, I was still conditioned to the way he used to be. I’d been rejected. Often. So I didn’t like to ask for sex, because I always felt like he would turn me down.

To complicate matters, I’ve always preferred sex to be spontaneous (who doesn’t, right?). I know that’s hard to accomplish when we are busy adults with families, jobs, school, and/or whatever other priorities we have. But asking for it, or even planning, just never feels right to me. He always goes to bed before I do, and I would try to be subtle and ask him if he wanted me to go to bed with him. But he never really picked up on the hint. Finally I had resorted to trying to be silly so I could play it off like a joke if he said no. “Do you want to sex me?” “Will you put your cock in me?” Things of that nature. We had a big talk about a month ago, when he told me that those things are very UNsexy for him and have the opposite effect than I’m seeking.

He told me that the best way to ask was non-verbally. If I want sex when he is going to bed, I should just go to bed with him and start making moves. He suggested kissing/nibbling his neck and/or earlobes. Or just going directly to his cock and start sucking it. If we are cuddling in bed, I’ll pull my hair out of the way and tell him to kiss my neck. That is one of my top erogenous zones, so it always makes me gasp and moan, which then turns him on, and things just go from there.

Since we’ve been on this non-verbal initiation, he hasn’t turned me down a single time. We are now having the best sex of our entire relationship. I can’t say it’s all due to the change in how I ask for sex, because there are definitely A LOT of other factors. But has definitely played a large part, I think. And I still do occasionally just tell him that I need him to fuck me. 🙂

It’s good to be me

I may very well be the luckiest and happiest girl in the whole damn world.

Not only do I have a man that loves, cherishes, treasures, spanks, spoils, and fucks the hell out of me with his MAGNIFICENT (and I don’t use that term lightly, my dears) cock. He also fully accepts me for who and what I am, without ever trying to tame me or rein me in. This blog is a prime example of that. He knows that my goal is to be a full-time blogger and that every detail of our personal lives is going to be put out there. And he is completely okay with that.
He and I have a wonderful open relationship. It hasn’t always been easy, of course. There have been some very tense moments and we’ve had to iron out some wrinkles here and there. There have been lots of talks and many tears. But after over 5 years, things are as close to perfect as they’ve ever been. The levels of trust, respect, and communication are through the roof. I really couldn’t ask for anything more.
Additionally, I have some amazing friends. Friends who let me and my man fuck them, who fuck us in return. I won’t say my life is like one big orgy all the time, but yeah, sometimes it is. I’ve been trying to think of a term for the type of relationships we all have. I mean, what do you call it when all of your friends fuck each other? We all have relationships with and respect and love each other, but it’s not exactly polyamory. I was thinking something along the lines of camaradamory or comradamory, but that’s quite a mouthful! Usually in more ways than one! Then again, wherefore is there any need to put a label on something that doesn’t really need to be defined?
Today I am excited and fully reveling in the awesomeness of my life because all morning I have been making plans for a weekend trip in two weeks. My man, 2 of our girlfriends, and I are taking a trip to a semi-local dungeon. By semi-local, I mean it’s 2 hours away. Living in the buckle of the Bible Belt in the southeast U.S., we don’t have anything remotely close to a dungeon here. One girlfriend (the one who’s on bottom in the pic from “In the loft”) booked a jacuzzi suite for us for the weekend. She agrees with my “the more, the merrier” mentality and said it was okay to invite some friends. In addition to my other girlfriend, the friend my girlfriend was fucking in the loft has been invited, but he most likely won’t be able to make it due to other conflicting plans. So my poor, darling man will be left to tend to and satisfy 3 hot, absolutely ravenous women! And of course I’ll be helping out, as well.
*sighing contentedly*
Yes, my life is good, indeed. And don’t worry, I’ll be sure to tell you all about it afterward. With any luck, there will also be some photographs to share. 😉
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