The real-life adventures of a girl who is willing to try just about anything.


Scientific Survey on Non-monogamy

For SCIENCE! This is a survey for anyone currently in (or interested in) a non-traditional, non-monogamous relationship. It’s completely confidential, and as an effort to get positive input and perspectives on poly/swinging/open relationships, I fully support taking this questionnaire.

Btw, this is the information on the back end of the survey. The credentials, so to speak:
Due to the personal nature of the questions being asked, you may have questions or concerns that you would like to discuss further. We have provided information about how to contact us below and encourage you to contact us should the need arise.
The primary investigators conducting this study:
Heath Schechinger, M.S., M.Ed.
Amy Moors, M.S.
The faculty advisor for this study:
Barbara Kerr, Ph.D.
Counseling services:
• Headquarters Counseling Center, available 24/7, free of charge, for any concern: (785) 841-2345. No charge.
• Counseling and Psychological Services (CAPS), Watkins Health Center, (785) 864-9580. Small fee per session.
To discuss your rights as a research participant:
Human Subjects Committee Lawrence, (785) 864-7429 or (785) 864-7385
Additional Nonmonogamy/Polyamory Resources:
• National Coalition for Sexual Freedom:
• Loving More:
• Alternatives to Marriage Project:
• Woodhull Sexual Freedom Alliance:

Bonnaroo 2012

For the first time ever in my blog’s (admittedly short) history, this post has absolutely nothing to do with sex (although, there was that slight sight-seeing detour at exit 146…). By request from the lovely Winsome Gypsy, I am giving you my full Bonnaroo report! 🙂 I’m going to treat this as if you know nothing about the festival, so it’s going to be a long one, complete with pictures.

Where was I? Where am I?

Dear readers… I hope I still have some. Are you there? Is this thing on? I’m sorry for neglecting you all for so long. I’ve got 10 draft posts right now that I work on in teensy, bite-sized portions. Seems like I get a line, maybe a paragraph, and then my mind wanders off. I keep trying to prime the pump, hoping the words will flow, but everything seems so forced. And it’s not for lack of anything to write about.

Part of the problem has just been making the time. I like to write as I am this moment: while I am at work. My supervisor leaves at 3:30pm, and my manager and the rest of my team are gone by 4:00pm, leaving me without any real chance of being caught. I like to get my work done in the morning, so that I can be free to write in the afternoon during that time. Lately, however, I’ve been slacking in the mornings and then struggling to get some work done before I leave at the end of the day. I’m trying to get back into my routine, however, so that I will have at least a couple of hours to devote to my blog each day.
The reason I like to write while I am here is that there are fewer distractions. The biggest distraction here (other than any lingering work that may need to be done) is the internet. Fortunately I’m getting back to the point where I need less surf time. If I actually start working when I get here in the morning, my brain doesn’t fall into that lazy, slack mode and it’s easier for me to get stuff done in the morning. As long as I don’t get sucked into the internets, I’m pretty good to go. Today was a good work day.
If I’m not able to get any writing done at work, trying to do any at home is generally difficult. Although, looking ahead, that should be a lot easier. My teenage sister, for whom I have been a legal guardian since our mother’s death in 2003 when she was 8, has moved out. She will be 18 at the end of next month, and things had just become very stressful and strained between us. The stress from that situation is what sent me down in the trough for a bit. I’ve managed to make my way back out, but I’m still shaking off the numbness in my brain. Depression is a bitch, and she clings for all she’s worth, let me tell you.
Things are good again, for the most part. I’ve just been really busy. I’ve been trying to figure out a schedule for writing, but I don’t want to make it too regimented. I write best when it is my distraction, i.e. when I’m supposed to be doing something else. Like working. So setting aside time for the purpose of writing doesn’t necessarily work for me. It kind of makes it feel like a chore. I almost never want to do whatever it is that I’m supposed to be doing. But this blog is very important to me. I take it very seriously, probably more seriously than I should.
At any rate, I just wanted to share that you are not forgotten. This is not forgotten. I’m still working some things out, but I am coming back. I have something new in my life that will be definitely giving me more to write about in the future, hopefully from more than one perspective (guest posts?).
To give you a bit of a teaser of things to come: 

  1. I am getting a housegirl. Her training and our developing relationship will be chronicled here. Also, I will be recording posts for her to transcribe. Big boost to content from that alone!
  2. I have at least one trip to the Woodshed planned in the coming weeks, the first of which is next weekend!
  3. My Diva will be visiting me from Berlin!
  4. I’ll finally be venturing into writing some fiction!
So I thank you all for your patience. Thanks for sticking around. The best is yet to come. 🙂

Question about TMI

Historically, this has been a sex blog. Recently, as you know, I haven’t been doing a lot of writing. It’s not because I haven’t been having sex. I just haven’t been writing about sex.

There have been a lot of things going on my life lately that have very little or nothing to do with sex. I have felt the want/need to write about those things, more than I have felt the need to write about sex. But I’m not writing about those, so I haven’t been writing about sex. I haven’t been writing at all, really.

I used to write a lot on LiveJournal, but haven’t really used that in a long time. I’ve considered creating another blog for non-sex-related posts. But since the mere thought of trying to maintain two blogs exhausts me, that’s not really an option.

Then I got to thinking, the name of my blog is “T is for TMI” and there are all sorts of TMI. It’s not just sexual. So I’ve been considering re-branding my blog just a bit, making it more of a mix in regards to content. I have always been all about TMI in my blogging, which is why the name is so perfect for me. I don’t have any problems with mixing the personal in with the, uh… really personal, if you know what I mean. 😉

My question to you, my dear, faithful readers, is how do you feel about that??? Is my personal, non-sex-related stuff TMI for you???

TMI Tuesday – The Most Times

TMI Tuesday: June 12, 2012

Posted on June 11, 2012 
This week’s TMI Tuesday theme is…

We want to know what thing you’ve done the most times.

1. What sex position have you been in the most times?
Believe it or not, the position we use most often is missionary.

2. What book have you read …?
Awaken the Giant Within by Anthony Robbins and The Tao of Pooh by Benjamin Hoff

3. What movie have you watched …?
Napoleon Dynamite. It’s my all-time favorite movie.

4. In the last week, who have you texted … ? (no names, list the relationship or type of person)
The person I text most is always my 17-year-old baby sister.

5. In the last week, what food have you eaten …?
I usually eat a banana and a granola bar every single day of the work week.

6. Today, which website have you visited …?
My blog. 🙂

7. When dining out, where have you eaten …?
Lupita’s, a hole-in-the-wall mom and pop Mexican restaurant up the road from us.

8. Which sex toy have you used …?
My GrrlToyz Silk Touch EggVibe and my Feeldoe Slim.

Bonus: Is there something you’d love to go back and relive in your sexual past?
(Thank you to Husband of Two Sexual Minds for this week’s bonus question)

Yes, I would love to go back to the night my Princess Angel and I destroyed a motel room.


How to play TMI Tuesday: Copy the above TMI Tuesday questions to your webspace (i.e., a blog). Answer the questions there, then leave a comment below, on this blog post, so we’ll all know where to read your responses. Please don’t forget to link to tmituesdayblogfrom your website!
Happy TMI Tuesday!

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